Day 21 & 22: The Bond Between TCK's - Columbia, SC

We are in South Carolina!

And I am marveling at how perfectly timed our journey was, and that we are here right now at this time. I had shared in a previous post a little glimpse of some of the struggles we are having. The exhausting swim upstream and how lonely it feels to be an outsider. No speed boat has come to tug us upstream but, here, we are met with fellow sojourners to whom we share a strong, and almost tangible, connection.

For Third Culture Kids, even if we didn’t grow up together in the same place, the life-shaping experience of having spent our formative years, and making sense of the world in a foreign country, creates an almost immediate bond so strong and natural it’s hard to explain or break. We might have just met two minutes ago and yet as we comfortably and naturally by-pass the small talk and dive right into deeper conversation it feels as if we’ve known each other our whole life.

TCK Meme

“TCK’s build relationships to all of the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the TCK’s life experience, the sense of belonging (or feeling at home) is in relationship to others of similar background.” (Dr. David Pollock, Third Culture Kids: The Experience of Growing up Among Worlds).

Whether we’ve just met, or, as is the case with Megan and Gerad, and Dan and Laura, several years may have spanned since the last time we've seen each other, but once we are together we can pick up seamlessly from where we left off.

In a strange, and at once, familiar sense it is like coming home.

Both Phil and I came away from our time with these friends so refreshed and renewed. Deeply encouraged and strengthened to keep going. To keep walking in the footsteps of Jesus and embrace the reality that we will never belong to any place in this world. And what a treasured gift it is, when we are fortunate to get a glimpse of what it might be like to come Home.

Megan and Gerad, Dan and Laura, I can’t tell you how much it meant to us to spend time with you. Without even knowing it, you have truly refreshed, encouraged, inspired, and motivated us anew. We love you and we are so grateful to call you our friends!